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Marriage: What’s the Purpose?

It seems that being beautiful, intelligent, athletic, having an education, a great sense of humor, a lively personality, a job, a humble abode, a whip, cooking & cleaning skills, a personal relationship with God, and when it comes down to the matter, a well preserved lotus flower; is just not enough for a man in these days and times. I was talking with one of my girlfriends the other day and we came to the realization that we’ve been seeking purposeful relationships the wrong way.

The sole purpose of courtship is to build a foundation with marriage being the destination. In today’s society there is a myriad of “unions” where folks are just “riding the wave” with no purpose. While a couple should probably have adoration for one another, it shouldn’t be the sole purpose for getting married. My dad warned me to never marry for love but to marry someone who shares the same interests, goals and beliefs. Hence, “equally yoked”. Marriage is not about sex, money, dependence, finding happiness, notoriety, kicking loneliness, control or ownership. Marriage is a covenant with God between a man and a woman. If God isn’t in the midst, it’s only a legal union where a couple is accountable only to one another.

Conversely, when a couple is accountable to each other and God, His purpose can be fulfilled. God can strengthen the bond when it is mutually acknowledged that His plan is perfect. We, on the other hand, are not perfect and if we rely on our own agenda, we’ll miss out on what God placed right in front of us. All good things come from the Father and He is the Vine. The branch cannot intertwine with the bush if they’re cut off from the root. Chew on that!

I want a life full of purpose and like most normal human beings; I can’t think of anything more I want in this world than for someone to truly love me. I’m so tired of the dead ends and the predators disguised as angels. It’s clear that God’s way is best for me. Now if I could just learn to get out of His way and listen…




Can anyone relate?


GradeAlpha
11.14.2011

 
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Posted by on November 14, 2011 in Doggie, My Thoughts, Song

 

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The Good You Do

Throughout history it has been said that one person can make a positive impact on their immediate environment by doing good, thus changing the world. Even on a smaller scale, ideas such as Pay It Forward encourage individuals to perform just three acts of kindness/charity. One becomes three, three becomes nine, nine becomes twenty-seven and so on. However, there isn’t any room for narrow-mindedness when it comes to doing good. When your body is in the ground and your spirit returns to the ether your soul will encompass all you’ve done, good and bad.

So while you are being blessed to take another breath and see the sunshine of a brand new day, do good. You have to believe that you are powerful enough to infect others with goodness or else you are just taking up space. I am tempted to go in on this matter but I feel that the words of the GREATS, ascending from all walks of life, will suffice. Besides, you’re more likely to believe them than me so enjoy!

“Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph.” – H.I.M. Haile Selassie I

“Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” – Philippians 2:4

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” – Plato

“He who cannot give anything away cannot feel anything either.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

“I expect to pass through this world but once; any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now; let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.” – Stephan Grellet

“It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness.” – Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.” – Mother Teresa

“You can gain more friends by being yourself than you can by putting up a front. You can gain more friends by building people up than you can by tearing them down. And you can gain more friends by taking a few minutes from each day to do something kind for someone, whether it be a friend or a complete stranger. What a difference one person can make!” – Sasha Azevedo

“Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the and the blind can see.” – Mark Twain

“Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses.” – Confucius

“Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.” – Seneca

“The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.” – William Wordsworth

“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22

“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.” – Scott Adams

“Keep yourselves far from envy; it eateth up and taketh away good actions, like as fire eateth up and burneth wood.” – Muhammad



“Men are cruel, but Man is kind.” – Rabindranath Tagore



“A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.” – St. Basil



“Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness.” – George Sand

“Human kindness is like a defective tap, the first gush may be impressive but the stream soon dries up.” – P. D. James

“Do your little bit of good where you are; its those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” – Bishop Desmond Tutu

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“One of the hardest things in this world is to admit you are wrong. And nothing is more helpful in resolving a situation than its frank admission.” – Benjamin Disraeli

“Nothing brings me more happiness than trying to help the most vulnerable people in society. It is a goal and an essential part of my life – a kind of destiny. Whoever is in distress can call on me. I will come running wherever they are.” – Princess Diana

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” – John Andrew Holmes

“Help thy brother’s boat across, and Lo! Thine own has reached the shore.” – Hindu Proverb

“The poor don’t know that their function in life is to exercise our generosity.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

“What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.” – Albert Pike

“Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.” – John Wesley

“Generosity is not giving me that which I need more than you do, but it is giving me that which you need more than I do.” – Kahlil Gibran

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” – Buddha

“The good you do for others is less than the good you will get in return. The good you do for self stays with self and never multiplies.” – GradeAlpha

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” – Winston Churchill

“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.” – Albert Einstein

“The wise man does not lay up his own treasures. The more he gives to others, the more he has for his own.” – Lao Tzu

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

“One does evil enough when one does nothing good.” – German Proverb

“Lots of people think they’re charitable if they give away their old clothes and things they don’t want.” – Myrtle Reed

“The charity that is a trifle to us can be precious to others.” – Homer

“Wisdom and goodness are twin-born, one heart must hold both sisters, never seen apart.” – William Dean Howells

“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, what am I? And if not now, when?” – Rabbi Hillel

“The generous man enriches himself by giving; the miser hoards himself poor.” – Dutch Proverb




“Every good act is charity. A man’s true wealth hereafter is the good that he does in this world to his fellows.” – Moliere

“Generosity gives assistance, rather than advice.” – Vauvenargues, Marquis de


“Gifts have ribbons, not strings.” – Vanna Bonta


“A good chief gives, he does not takes.” – Mohawk Proverb

“Behold I do not give lectures or a little charity, When I give I give myself.” – Walt Whitman

“What you give for the cause of charity in health is gold; what you give in sickness is silver; what you give after death is lead.” – Jewish Proverb

“In faith and hope the world will disagree, but all mankind’s concern is charity…” – Alexander the Great

“Boards of public charity were invented by the devil to prevent real individual charity.” – Austin O’Malley

“Charity begins at home, and justice begins next door.” – Charles Dickens

“Acts of loving-kindness now supersede sacrifices as the preferred way of attaining God’s forgiveness.” – Yochanan ben Zakkai

“Charity and pride have different aims, yet both feed the poor.” – Proverb

“If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one.” – Mother Teresa

“If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another.” – Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama

“Goodness is the only investment that never fails.” – Henry David Thoreau

“If you have much, give of your wealth; If you have little, give of your heart.” – Arab Proverb

“It is not what they profess but what they practice that makes them good.” – Greek Proverb

“Goodness is love in action, love with its hand to the plow, love with the burden on its back, love following his footsteps who went about continually doing good.” – James Hamilton

“Some people give time, some money, some their skills and connections, some literally give their life’s blood. But everyone has something to give.” – Barbara Bush

“Give advice; if people don’t listen, let adversity teach them.” – Ethiopian Proverb

“Goodness speaks in a whisper, evil shouts.” – Tibetan Proverb

“The welfare of each is bound up in the welfare of all.” – Helen Keller

“Many men have been capable of doing a wise thing, more a cunning thing, but very few a generous thing.” – Alexander Pope

“Do not stand on a high pedestal and take 5 cents in your hand and say, “here, my poor man”, but be grateful that the poor man is there, so by making a gift to him you are able to help yourself. It is not the reciever that is blessed, but it is the giver. Be thankful that you are allowed to exercise your power of benevolence and mercy in the world, and thus become pure and perfect.” – Swami Vivekananda

“The return we reap from generous actions is not always evident.” – Francesco Guicciardini

 
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Posted by on March 26, 2011 in Quotes

 

I’ll Walk

Don’t talk about my pot
Cause your kettle’s black
Commit to a cause
Then pedal on back

Speak out your rear
And call it fact
Pay like you weigh
But cut out the fat

No double dipping
No coming back
You flipped the switch
You faded to black

I found the light
And I made a pact
No darkened hallways
No crooked paths

For I analyzed
The charts and graphs
The same old mistakes
Plague of the Past

Stretching myself
Making it last
Running on empty
Driving too fast

Pumping the brakes
Oh shoot! it’s the gas
Typical dummy
Testing the crash

Head on collision
Flung through the glass
This time…
I think I’ll walk

Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha
3-18-2011

 
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Posted by on March 18, 2011 in Poetry

 

Message From a Fallen Soldier

PASS YOU BY

Out from the darkness
I emerged into the light
Sent on a mission
A soldier with one plight

But the road is rough
So the one became two
Then before you know it
I was hanging with my crew
 
Ask me my regrets
I got to think about that one
I’m still on my mission
So silly I don’t have none

But what I have is memories
Between the dashes
And love in my heart
Between the dust and ashes

They say that three’s a crowd
But the more the merry
When you and I were two
Ooh, my mon cheri

But I’m back to square one
It’s just, me and my shadow
When I’m called on high
That’s my ground zero 

I just want to see what
Life could really be but
There’s so many questions
One answer is pressing
However you see it
You gotta one, two, three it
Then it’s done
Three, two, one

Pass you by… don’t let this life pass you by

Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

3/5/2011

 
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Posted by on March 5, 2011 in Poetry, Song

 

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Tumbling Down

What may be an Earth shattering experience to you may be dust on the shoulder to someone else. You can’t measure other people’s trials on a scale. When it all falls down, either you’re standing on the rubble looking for the ground or underneath the rubble looking for the light. I started this piece 2 years ago but today it is finished. 3/5/2011

Tumbling Down

I never thought they would fall…
Protected by these walls…
I found myself under siege and wounded
Help me…
Please…
Destruction’s all I see….
I’m not what I used to be…
I may smile but I’m not happy…
No…
Where to go…

Shards of shattered glass…
Reflections of my past…
I’m unscathed yet somehow I am bleeding…
Deep…
This type of agony…
Has got the best of me…
I’m in a world where there is no one… 
Loving…
Me…

It’s not a comedy…
Some people laugh at me….
Maybe I…
Had it coming…
Running…
Away…
So much bad energy…
Thank God for inner peace…
Shady hearts impart the start of hatred…
By what they say…

It hurt’s all the way down…
Once laughter…
Now no sound…
When I scream my echo comes back empty…
And cold…
A stream of frozen tears…
Accompanied with fears…
Can someone show me how to have it all…
Yet not hold…

I’m so lost in this here cold world
I need a map to breathe
Feels as if I’ve lost my touch
I need my hands to see
If you take a look inside
I am crumbling
Life’s a ball I need to catch
Cause I am fumbling

Since my world came tumbling down…
Oh my world came tumbling down…
Yes my world came tumbling down…
Standing on the rubble…
Can’t find the ground…

Since my world came tumbling down…
Oh my world came tumbling down…
Yes my world came tumbling down…
Underneath the rubble…
Pressed to the ground…

Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

 
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Posted by on March 5, 2011 in Poetry

 

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Miss Me Miss Me

 You Know You’re Missing Out… Because You Miss Me

I'm leaving on a jet plane...

 

Mis-calculation

Do your math again

Kinte cloth

Don’t make you African

 

Mis-guidance

At the fork in the road

The devil made me do it

Lo and behold

 

Mis-advised

Learned Marxism

Justify the means

While pacing in prison

 

Mis-interpreted

Words are the enemy

Peace increase

When silences’ befriending me

 

Mis-understand

You think that I thought

I know what I saw

We thought til we fought

 

Mis-believe

When it is what it is

If I could change facts

I’d fly with pigs

 

Mis-trust

Flow with the river bend

Crash on the rocks

Hearts do mend again

 

Miss the lesson

Life is a *HEY*

Watch the pitch

Else swing and a miss

 

Mis-fortunate

Oh you missed the boat

Now you wanna get on board

So you can float

 

Mis-apprehension

What were you thinking

Abandon ship

When the ship start sinking

 

Mis-shapen myself

Depressed for months

Worn out from being pulled

In one of your stunts

 

Mis-allocated

You dipped on me

Never thought

You would split on me

 

Mis-spoken

You call in vain

When what was said

Is what caused the pain

 

Mis-conduct

Smile and front

Looked me in the face

Didn’t say nothing

 

Mis-quote me

Take it out of context

Trying to justify

Why you’re upset

 

Mis-aligned

Fell off track

Last I heard

You want me back.

 

But you missed me…

 

Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

3/1/2011

 


 
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Posted by on March 1, 2011 in Doggie, Poetry, Song

 

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LIFE FLOW AND ENERGY

WHAT A STRANGE FORCE
PULLING ME CLOSE TO YOU
LAST THING ON MY MIND
STRAIGHT OUT OF THE BLUE
NIGHT AND DAY BLENDED
TIME ITSELF CEASED
I NEVER SAW THE OCEAN
AND THOUGHT I’D HAVE A PIECE
THE SAND BETWEEN MY TOES
THE WATER UP MY THIGHS
REMINDED ME OF INNOCENCE
ON WHICH WE ONCE RELIED
STRAIGHT OUT A NOVEL
GRAPHIC AND COMPLETE
DESCRIBES THE TIDE THAT EBBS
KNOCKS ME OFF MY FEET
YOU CAN BE MY ADAM
I CAN BE YOUR RIB
IF YOU WAS A BABY
I WOULD BE YOUR BIB
I JUST WANT TO PHASE YOU
IN EVERY STAGE OF LIFE
I WANT TO AMAZE YOU
WITH A DASH OF SPICE
I MAY NOT BE THE WISEST
I MAY NOT LOOK THE BEST
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO ENERGY
I AM A WOMAN BLESSED
I CAN FEEL YOUR HAPPINESS
EVEN WHEN YOU FROWN
I GIVE THOROUGH ANSWERS
TO THE QUESTIONS YOU CAN’T SOUND
Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

2/28/2011

 
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Posted by on February 28, 2011 in Poetry

 

Maintenance Required

LIKE AUTOMOBILES,
RELATIONSHIPS NEED MAINTENANCE TOO…
 

Waiting by the side of the road for AAA

 

Maintenance is required

I know you seen the lights

There is a major problem

You need to get it right

I bid thee don’t ignore

I’ve seen the end before

 

Maintenance is required

There is a task at hand

This is not work for hire

You failed to understand

You need to treat me

If you want to keep me

 

Maintenance is required

This ain’t a false alarm

This is a warning for you

So that you meet no harm

Ignoring me is rude

You’re only hurting you

 

Maintenance is required

I’m sure you figured out

I’m like a broken record

What is this all about?

It’s been a couple of weeks

And yet still no relief

 

Maintenance is required

I can go on all day

You cannot light my fire

And then just walk away

I will not settle down

I can go 12 more rounds

 

Maintenance is required

What part did you not get?

You need to check up on me

You really should not let

Me linger for so long

And I know you know you’re wrong

 

Maintenance is required

I hear you suck your teeth

As if I annoy you

You act like we got beef

You watch me all day long

And still think nothing’s wrong

 

Maintenance is required

In case you didn’t hear

This is a small reminder

I’m trying to keep you dear

I’d bet you’d think I’m cold

Leave you dirt side of road

 

Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

2-26-2011

 


 
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Posted by on February 26, 2011 in Doggie, Poetry

 

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Can You Remember The Rain?

Question:

Can You Remember The Rain? – 21st Century

Response:

“Can I remember?”, now that’s a stupid question;

I know the hour the minute and the second.

They flew by I was trapped in time,

I didn’t have the dollars to make you mine.

I said, “Fine boo, anyway you want it.”

With two yellow flags you kicked and you punted;

My hopes and dreams into foul territory,

I never knew you would reap terror for me.

Anyhow, that’s then this is now

I heard you have a good job, spouse and child.

“It’s very nice to see you’ve settled down”,

I said, with an upside down frown.

I can’t see how you could ask me that!

I’m trying to move on but you blast the past.

Furthermore our answers don’t match up;

A broken heart is hard to patch up.

If it’s possible you could’ve loved me

The same time you loved the money;

That’s word I would have never said a word,

Just roll up and ball like cat turd.

I wouldn’t mind being filthy rich

If love didn’t involve getting “hitched”.

See me I don’t wanna fall in love…

I wanna walk in love and talk in love.

It’s probably my fault – I took the fall

Cause love on the floor ain’t love at all.

Washed up like a mop and bucket

I took all the pain nipped and tucked it…

Just like how you let me go,

I became a hitch everybody knows.

Money over everything including me

Pain in my eyes makes it hard to see…

Now enough of this – this here chit chats.

You gotta go home. I ain’t with that.

Rub on your Visa and money green pillow stash.

Go to your money loving love beyond the overpass.

You never had a real use for my real love,

Yes, I do remember the rain that you speak of.

-Melodie Noel/GradeAlpha

 
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Posted by on February 25, 2011 in Doggie, Poetry

 

Calvin and Hobbes Syndrome

I’ve had friends tell me that I “need to throw that ‘thing’ away.” FAT CHANCE! I grew up with one older sister and you know how older sisters can be. I wasn’t worthy of her company until the two-year difference faded in my teens, so, naturally, I needed someone to play with. I personified a reflection of myself into Doggie and over the years he has been true blue… Just like me (of course)! I do see how such an attachment can be viewed as “unhealthy” but I have it under control… lol He’s actually posted up in my Grandmother’s house, on top of a pile of other dolls. Although he is mostly out of reach, the memories of my partner-in-crime remain close at heart. So I will blog on… Doggie is my anti-drug!

 
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Posted by on February 24, 2011 in Doggie

 

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